Comfort is overrated.
At first glance you may think I have less in common with Luvvie than any two people you have ever met. But these three words hit home for me. We are both writers, and each of us took a leap of faith early in our careers that turned our world inside out, upside down, and onto the right track. But while the similarities may end there, Luvvie’s TED talk has had me thinking about the beliefs we share when it comes to the status quo—something both of us ran away from long ago.
If you’re asking what this talk about taking a stand has to do with our full-time RVing location independent entrepreneur lifestyle, keep reading. The answer is nothing, and everything.
There is a misconception among many of those living the default life, that those of us who live this nomadic lifestyle must be fearless. To paraphrase Luvvie: We are not fearless. We are not unafraid of the consequences for living a life on the road. It’s not like the sacrifices we make don’t scare us. Even after eleven years now, some of the lifestyle choices we have made still scare the shit out of me!
Certain questions have nagged me since I left my comfortable career when we decided to start our own business, and that was ten years before hit the road. What will we do without our 401K and benefits? What if our emergency fund doesn’t cover our next major surprise expense? What lies ahead for us down the road. Where will we be in another ten years?
What if we get another flat tire? What if we run out of fuel in the middle of nowhere? What if we can’t get online everywhere we go? What if Wyatt Ray gets sick in Alaska? To paraphrase Uncle Kracker, forget What and tell If to take a hike!
We don’t do this without fear. My first big boss told me back in my Silicon Valley days, FUD will get you nowhere. Fear, Uncertainty, and Doubt will do you no good. That same boss taught me that, “only the paranoid survive.” So if you ask me, having a few fears are a good thing—as long as you face them head on, put them in their place, and put them to good use.
Fear has a very concrete power of keeping us from doing and saying the things that are our purpose. —Luvvie Ajayi
Luvvie says we can’t let fear rule our lives or dictate what we do. I agree. Fear is what causes people to say “someday” about seeking out their deepest desires. To say, “Oh I could never do that,” or that they must wait until the retire. Fear forces people into living a life of complacency, it prevents them from following and fulfilling their wildest dreams.
Luvvie jumped out of a plane, something she never thought she would ever do. She later looked back and realized, “sitting on the edge of that plane is comfort.”
Long ago, I left a perfectly upward mobile career path. Years later, we drove away from a booming business we grew from scratch. Early on in our travels, the FUD had us asking ourselves: What is wrong with us? It didn’t take long to realize taking that leap was the best thing we’ve ever done. And we could never have done it, if we didn’t face our fears.
Keeping things the way they’ve been is comfortable.
Comfort is so overrated.
Living your life for a false sense of security may be comfortable, but it is more unpredictable than you think. I know, been there, done that. It’s not exactly comfortable hauling a trailer up steep mountain grades in driving rain. There is no comfort in waiting for your truck to be repaired in a small town with only one mechanic. But if we feared these things, we would never reap the benefits of exploring so many beautiful places as we have seen.
Driving into unknown territory with no cell service, maneuvering our trailer through small towns in the search of diesel, having no typical job or “home” and making a living on the road are all like falling out of that plane every day.
All comfort has done is maintain the status quo. So we have to become comfortable with being uncomfortable.
Read Luvvie’s Book: I’M JUDGING YOU: The Do Better Manual
Read Luvvie’s Blog: Awesomely Luvvie
Listen to Luvvie’s Podcast: Rants and Randomness
Watch the TED Talk (10± Min.)
Listen to Ted Radio Hour interview below.